As I reflect on this year, let’s reflect on my 20s really quickly since I basically exited that decade this year. I hear that your 20s are when you make a lot of mistakes and it’s okay not to have your life together because most people don’t have their life together in their 20s and I’m glad I heard that before entering my 20s but it still didn’t keep me from wishing I had my life together in my twenties. My twenties came with a lot of ups and downs/some twists and turns. I did what I did best and pushed through adversaries. I pushed through a whole lot of things that people would never believe that I’ve ever even been through and honestly I’m just grateful to be here.
I learned a lot in my 20s. I learned grace, patience, compassion and a lot of tools that I would need to carry into my 30s and beyond. I’m grateful to be here. I’ve been looking forward to my 30s for a while because I felt like my twenties were ghetto and fabulous all at the same time. You know that meme that says but there’s just always something, the never-ending something popping up, that’s how I felt about my 20s and I’m not saying I’m the only one that had to go through that or deal with that but I think my 20s gave me strength from God for sure.
I did what I do best out of any situation: I made the best out of my 20s whenever something popped up that may have ruffled my feathers I made the best out of it. I made it work in one way or another for my benefit, even if it didn’t feel like it was working at first, eventually, it would work and if it didn’t I changed my mind and pivoted. I learned to pivot a lot in my 20s and I think that’s a super skill I get to take into my 30s and beyond.
I laugh now at the thought of me thinking I really was going to have my life together in my 20s. If you asked teenage Oyinkan how her life would be, she would tell you that by her early to mid-twenties her life would be so together and it’s hilarious to me now because I learned that that’s actually not the norm. My reflections aren’t to compare my life to any other person but I just learned that it’s okay for that not to be the case for me and it’s fine. The beauty of not having life together is that you have so much to look forward to and grow and learn (not saying that you can’t learn when everything is together but when everything is not together, it’s just so much to put in place that your focus is extremely tunnel vision) so I’m super excited for that and I’m super excited for all the things that God is doing, will do, and has already done.
I was excited about 29 because I knew that was my last year in my 20s. It’s my last time to experience my 20s and I knew that I would never be able to experience my 20s again. 29 meant a lot to me. I can and can’t believe that my 30th year is here. Finally and wow so soon so quick! It took so long and came so quickly all at the same time but I’m still very grateful. There are so many things that I can thank God for; so many hurdles 29 has overcome for me (through Christ of course) that I feel different and the same all at the same time. I feel older and the same age all at the same time. I feel like it matters and doesn’t matter all at the same time. I can’t describe it but it’s quite an interesting feeling. It’s a new decade!
Part of me is happy that I spent a lot of the end of my twenties to myself. I guess the pandemic came in at a decent time which launched me doing so.
If you’re reading this and you’re in your twenties or even if you’re a teenager, the one piece of advice I’d give to you is don’t rush and assume that your life would be together in your 20s. Aim for that, go hard and try your best for that, but if you come out of your 20s with everything not exactly how you would have wanted it, don’t fret and don’t let that bother you. Just keep going and understand that you get to continue the journey in your 30s and that’s okay too. Our plan doesn’t always align with God’s plan and that’s always okay. That’s just as beautiful.
Earrings: Befitting Style Linked Tassel Earrings
Bikini Top: Victoria’s Secret
Bikini Bottom: Matte Collection
Coverup: I crocheted it on the plane & at the hotel LOL
